For a while now I have been feeling like I need to declutter but I had no idea where to start or what exactly needed decluttering; My mind? My possessions?
I am an anxiety sufferer. I'm no where near as bad as I once was which is down to being able to recognise the signs and triggers, but nevertheless I still suffer with anxiety. Mentally decluttering was a huge part of my recovery process at a time when I hit rock bottom. Carrying this on beyond recovery once I felt ok proved to be a new challenge.
Challenges are good though! They take us further than we thought we were capable of, they push our boundaries and encourage us to achieve. A challenge I set myself was a promise to myself that I would never sink that low again. I won't put myself or my family under that kind of pressure; I can't and won't affect them like that again. In order to achieve that my mind has to be clear. I have to keep it decluttered.
Just recently I have once again been overthinking, ruminating, worrying, judging myself, putting my appearance down and so on, so my mind has been far from clear. I'm not sure WHY I do this but what is important here is that I know I AM doing it. Whereas previously I did not know and in turn and I did not deal with things and eventually I hit rock bottom. I was ill, really ill. Suffering bad with anxiety and mild depression. I was, in my doctors words as unwell "as someone with all their limbs in plaster"...I couldn't do anything! But this time it is different, I know I am overthinking so I just have to find a way to deal with it.
After reading a post on Facebook all to do with Attaching ourselves to stuff that my beautiful friend Samantha Alice of Living365 Coaching wrote I felt inspired. Samantha is currently living her chosen freedom lifestyle and while traveling Thailand decided she had a rucksack full of 'stuff' she didn't need. So Sam made the decision to give it to charity. All the items in the bag can be replaced if need be but they are items that she just didn't need on her travels making them more of a hindrance than a benefit. Samantha wrote "The more stuff I let go of, the more space I feel I have, not only physically, but mentally too". Then it dawned on me...perhaps I needed to declutter some physical items in order to clear my mind.
Maybe the organised chaos that I am surround by is a life like reflection of what's going on inside my mind?!
OR maybe the 1001 things circulating my head is mirroring the physical clutter...
I had already started clearing out my daughters' wardrobes... there was no real thought process behind this, not a conscious one anyway. I had filled a bag to take to give to a friend and a bag to give to charity and it felt great (they still have way too much 'stuff' but nevertheless its a start). Then I moved on to my wardrobe creating another bag of clothes to give to charity.
It felt amazing! Like some kind of release, like a small pressure had gone.
My decluttering thought process had became a conscious one. We do not need hundreds of possessions to make us feel good but we do need a clear mind and by clearing 'stuff' you DO clear your mind. Therefore, I have started a much bigger decluttering project!
Now don't get me wrong I am not about to become a minimalist but I am aware I have a lot of stuff around me. So if I declutter the physical things, you know, the possessions that are not needed such as items of clothing and shoes that haven't been worn for years, or books that have been read once then left to collect dust on a book shelf, bits of paper and other general cr*p that is laying around the house then I will inadvertently declutter my mind too. Thus making me feel great!
Clearing my mind will enable me to make sense of the nonsense flying around my head.
It will make me feel like I can conquer the world and believe me, after a good nights kip and with a clear mind I will take any shite that is thrown at me. And I will deal with it! But you see, half my battle is I am always trying to get EVERYTHING done NOW. Take it from me, this doesn't work you need to go slow and things will happen faster. Therefore, I need to strip things back. Declutter the physical things. Taking small but productive steps. Then everything else will fall into place because it will have the space to do so both mentally and physically.
Just remember, we must not kid ourselves that suddenly we won't have bad days any more because we have cleared all our possessions!! As wonderful as that sounds it is totally unrealistic!
There will still be days where the kids drive us mad and where we feel exactly the way I felt when I wrote An Ode' To My Kids but because the mind is clear you will be able to deal with these days much easier...
There is plenty more that needs to be done but I have started my huge 'decluttering journey' ( I don't know if that's a thing but I'm making it a thing). Especially seeing as I counted 40 dresses that I put back in the girls' wardrobes never mind their tops, skirts, shorts, leggings etc!!!
Yes I hear you! What has she done exactly? Well, I have made a start, a small one granted but a start nevertheless and by doing it this way the whole process doesn't seem overwhelming.
I have set myself an achievable challenge and I will achieve it. One step at a time!
Here's to a clearer future 🙂
Since I started writing this, as part of my 'huge decluttering journey', Mr B has made a start on the loft.
A while back we bought a conservatory off eBay then for one reason or another we changed our minds. So rather than getting rid straight away the bulk of it ended up in our loft! But what on earth for? Why?! Why not get rid straight away? What good is it doing up there?
What were we doing...saving it for a rainy day? My word!!
Anyway its gone now and so has a load more stuff we didn't even realise was up there. And you know what? It feels great.
Actually watching things leaving feels like another part of me is able to breathe. I had no idea that 'stuff' could hold you down so much, almost like an anchor!
So my overall message to you is this. If you have started to feel like you need to declutter and like a good clear out is needed, but you feel overwhelmed by the process when you look at how much 'stuff' you actually have, you need to take a step back.
Take a breathe. Choose a place to start. Anywhere. It doesn't matter where. Just go with what feels right and, well, start!
You do not have to conquer your whole house in one hit come on guys Rome wasn't built in day! You do not even need to do a whole room; I started with one cupboard. That way when you haven't cleared the whole room you can't be hard on yourself for not completing what you set out to do. I give myself small manageable chunks, if I do more great if I don't that's fine.
Your decluttering journey...
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